Relationships really are a puzzle. There are so many little things that come together to make a relationships work. Over the past few weeks we have been talking about what makes a good relationship. As we come to a close in this series, we want to take some time to put all of the pieces together in a way that you can practically apply them in your life. While there are many more parts of a relationship than what have been talked about, Trust, Communication, and Boundaries as well as a relationship built on Christ are the most important.
To have good relationships we have to first look back at the beginning of Creation. God created the first relationship between people in the Garden of Eden with Adam and Eve. When He created Adam he saw that it was not good for man to be alone so He created Eve to be his companion. God created us with a sense of community and need for relationships. If we truly want to have good relationships, we have to start with a firm foundation built on the solid principles of God.
When we discover a deeper relationship in Christ it flows over into our relationships with others. To grow those deeper relationships we have to be in constant communication with not only our Father in Heaven but also those who are our friends, boy/girlfriends, fiance’s, and spouses. We should be able to have conversations with those closest to us about our relationships. If we learn how to apply this and push through the awkward moments, we have a chance to affect a statistic that says most marriages end in failure. We have to inspire positive change within us.
Sometimes we get scared that our relationships will fall if we keep open communication with God and our significant other. On God’s side we get scared that if He takes control over our relationships that we might not get to keep the person that we are in a relationship with now. We also sometimes think that if we talk about issues that are awkward we could end up losing someone as well. We have to learn how to trust God first and be obedient to what He says, even if it means ending a relationship. Trust is vital to relational success. If we don’t learn to trust in God we will never be able to trust in others.
One of the most common mistakes that people make in relationships is not setting boundaries early in the relationship. If we build our relationships correctly we can have the awkward conversation and set boundaries that will direct us in the way of purity, not promiscuity. If we really want to be different we need to rebel against the norm of breaking boundaries and set them in a way that is pleasing to God.
When relationships are built on the solid foundation of Christ, everything else will fall into place. Relationships won’t be so hard to figure out if we trust God and have open communication with Him about our relationships. He will direct us in a way that shows us what boundaries to follow so that we can remain pure in Him. We have to become different than the rest of the world and fight against the inward desire to do things on our own. One day we will be able to see more marriages working and relationships building. Change can only come when we decide to do relationships God’s way and not our way.
We hope that you have enjoyed the past weeks in our Awkward Relationship series. As this comes to a close, we hope that you are encouraged to pursue a relationship with God and allow for Him to control your earthly ones. Next week, we will be talking about some of the questions we have received about Dive Deep Ministries and announcing our new series to start on April 20. If you have any specific questions about our ministry that you would like to have incorporated into next week’s post, please send us an e-mail at kyle@divedeepministries.org.
Have a great week in the Lord!
Dive Deep,
KC
In a relationship, just like it was with A&E, you are in it together. If it gets off course,it’s usually because one person gets their own good idea about what would be best for the other person, ignoring advice from those God has given them for guidance, gets the other person to go along with it, makes a mess of things and turns into an issue of pride, blaming the other person and then hiding from the people God has given them for guidance out of shame. So “Put pride aside and let God guide, Forget blame and shame, Just call on His Name.”
This will help with most issues in an awkward relationship–especially with God.