Comments on: Awkward Relationships: Back to the beginning http://2010.divedeepministries.org/2009/03/09/back-to-the-beginning/ Inspiring change in the current generation Sun, 15 Aug 2010 02:45:44 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Dive Deep Ministries http://2010.divedeepministries.org/2009/03/09/back-to-the-beginning/comment-page-1/#comment-8 Dive Deep Ministries Tue, 28 Apr 2009 20:26:11 +0000 http://divedeepministries.wordpress.com/?p=102#comment-8 Thanks for stopping by Desiree! We really appreciate the help with promoting our ministry, but more than that creating a group of Christians who are not afraid to claim the name :) We need more people talking about this type of stuff from a Christian perspective. Thanks so much again! Dive Deep, KC Thanks for stopping by Desiree! We really appreciate the help with promoting our ministry, but more than that creating a group of Christians who are not afraid to claim the name :) We need more people talking about this type of stuff from a Christian perspective. Thanks so much again!

Dive Deep,
KC

]]> By: dareisay http://2010.divedeepministries.org/2009/03/09/back-to-the-beginning/comment-page-1/#comment-7 dareisay Tue, 28 Apr 2009 20:22:21 +0000 http://divedeepministries.wordpress.com/?p=102#comment-7 Thank you so much for taking the time to do something like this. I also thank you for your comment on my blog. I am going to add you to my roll because I believe a lot of what I have to say can be fortified by your site. Thanks again! -Desiree Thank you so much for taking the time to do something like this. I also thank you for your comment on my blog. I am going to add you to my roll because I believe a lot of what I have to say can be fortified by your site. Thanks again!

-Desiree

]]> By: Dare to Live http://2010.divedeepministries.org/2009/03/09/back-to-the-beginning/comment-page-1/#comment-6 Dare to Live Sat, 04 Apr 2009 22:30:00 +0000 http://divedeepministries.wordpress.com/?p=102#comment-6 Oops! The second sentence of the last paragraph is suppose to read "I know so many Christians that met someone from opposite gender, and fell in love simply because they were both Christians, only to find out later that the other person wasn’t who God had planned for them." Oops! The second sentence of the last paragraph is suppose to read “I know so many Christians that met someone from opposite gender, and fell in love simply because they were both Christians, only to find out later that the other person wasn’t who God had planned for them.”

]]> By: Dare to Live http://2010.divedeepministries.org/2009/03/09/back-to-the-beginning/comment-page-1/#comment-5 Dare to Live Sat, 04 Apr 2009 22:25:43 +0000 http://divedeepministries.wordpress.com/?p=102#comment-5 Great thoughts, Kyle (so sorry I'm just now getting around to replying to these)! First of all, I think that "awkward" relationships can also happen because we (both Christians and non-Christians) are trying to live up to the world's expectations. Expectations like you have to be in a relationship with a guy or girl by a certain age or else something must be wrong with you. Or like when you're looking for a date/mate, you're suppose to find someone that meets YOUR needs. Or when you're on date, you're suppose to impress the person and only show your "good side." Or...(we Christians mainly fall prey to this one), if you meet a nice girl or boy, then they must be the one you're suppose to marry. Looking into God's word, we see that these expectations have many flaws. First, God's timing is perfect! There's no verse that says we have to start dating by the time we're 15, 17,25, or whatever. I believe that God will work everything according to His schedule. Second, we are told not to be selfish, but to serve the needs of others. Certainly we want to find someone who we enjoy being around, have similar interests, etc., but instead of only pleasing ourselves, we need to be trying to please and serve others. This has been said before, but instead of trying to find Mr. or Mrs. Right, we need to work on becoming Mr. or Mrs. Right for someone else. Thirdly, we are called to live in the light. We need to be honest and upfront about who we really are. We need to be honest about our struggles, our weakness, our hurts etc. Lastly, and this is a HUGE one…there are a lot of great guys and girls out there, but let’s face it, you can only marry one! I know so many Christians that met someone from opposite gender, simply because they were both Christians, only to find out later that the other person wasn’t who God had planned for them. There’s a verse in Songs of Solomon that talks about not awaking love until it so desire. So many of us are so eager to be in a relationship that when we meet someone who just MIGHT be our future mate, we go crazy (hence why some Christian schools can be messed up). I would encourage everyone to start out just being friends with others (just for the sole purpose of being friends), and when you think you might have meet your future spouse, to still wait and pray before making any quick decisions. This is not to say that we should be non-commitmental or passive, but only that we need to be wise in our actions. Once a relationship has been moved from friendship to serious or romantic relationship, it’s hard to ever go back to just being friends again. And when two people realize they don’t want to be in a serious relationship, they usually end up completely terminated the relationship and friendship. Well, those are my thoughts. Sorry for such a long post !! ~Hannah P. Great thoughts, Kyle (so sorry I’m just now getting around to replying to these)!

First of all, I think that “awkward” relationships can also happen because we (both Christians and non-Christians) are trying to live up to the world’s expectations. Expectations like you have to be in a relationship with a guy or girl by a certain age or else something must be wrong with you. Or like when you’re looking for a date/mate, you’re suppose to find someone that meets YOUR needs. Or when you’re on date, you’re suppose to impress the person and only show your “good side.” Or…(we Christians mainly fall prey to this one), if you meet a nice girl or boy, then they must be the one you’re suppose to marry.

Looking into God’s word, we see that these expectations have many flaws.

First, God’s timing is perfect! There’s no verse that says we have to start dating by the time we’re 15, 17,25, or whatever. I believe that God will work everything according to His schedule.

Second, we are told not to be selfish, but to serve the needs of others. Certainly we want to find someone who we enjoy being around, have similar interests, etc., but instead of only pleasing ourselves, we need to be trying to please and serve others. This has been said before, but instead of trying to find Mr. or Mrs. Right, we need to work on becoming Mr. or Mrs. Right for someone else.

Thirdly, we are called to live in the light. We need to be honest and upfront about who we really are. We need to be honest about our struggles, our weakness, our hurts etc.

Lastly, and this is a HUGE one…there are a lot of great guys and girls out there, but let’s face it, you can only marry one! I know so many Christians that met someone from opposite gender, simply because they were both Christians, only to find out later that the other person wasn’t who God had planned for them. There’s a verse in Songs of Solomon that talks about not awaking love until it so desire. So many of us are so eager to be in a relationship that when we meet someone who just MIGHT be our future mate, we go crazy (hence why some Christian schools can be messed up). I would encourage everyone to start out just being friends with others (just for the sole purpose of being friends), and when you think you might have meet your future spouse, to still wait and pray before making any quick decisions. This is not to say that we should be non-commitmental or passive, but only that we need to be wise in our actions. Once a relationship has been moved from friendship to serious or romantic relationship, it’s hard to ever go back to just being friends again. And when two people realize they don’t want to be in a serious relationship, they usually end up completely terminated the relationship and friendship.

Well, those are my thoughts. Sorry for such a long post !!

~Hannah P.

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